Frequently asked questions:
Don’t worry, it happens. One of the most important factors in supporting change is the ‘chemistry’ between the professional and the client. If you feel that the person you’re talking to for the first time doesn’t resonate with you, if you feel that you don’t understand each other, you can change them. It’s your choice. Gender, age, as well as facial expressions, tone and pace of voice, the expert’s mannerisms – whether they suit you or not, it’s up to your individual preferences. In school, at university, in your environment – there are also people who resonate with you more than others. It doesn’t mean that someone is better or worse (don’t worry, the coach won’t be offended), it simply means that at this moment in your life, your needs are different. Listen to your heart and intuition in this regard – after all, it’s your life.
A coach, psychologist, or psychotherapist is bound by professional confidentiality. This is how trust is built, among other things. The only time when they may (and even must) break confidentiality is when they have suspicions that their client poses a threat to their own life or the lives and health of others.
Suicidal thoughts, self-harm, these are certainly topics that a coach, psychologist, or other therapist must inform parents about. In the case of a teenager, the range of health-threatening situations also includes eating disorders, substance abuse, and other risky behaviors. In any case, the therapist will inform you that they want to have such a conversation with the parents, they will explain why and to what extent. Most often, they will discuss with the young person whether they will talk to the parents themselves or act as an advocate for the young person, and the conversation will be conducted together.
When you have worked through something, but it would be beneficial for your parents to also make certain changes in your mutual interaction to support the process you are going through. When it is valuable for them to support your self-esteem. When the conversation reveals that a change in your mutual communication would be helpful, improving the quality of your shared life. Don’t worry – the coach will never do this without discussing it with you beforehand (whether you will be present during the conversation, whether they will conduct it themselves, and to what extent). You have an active influence on all of this, and it is done with respect for your boundaries.
A coach asks you questions, helps you set goals, and you actively work on yourself. The process usually involves transforming a specific problem or dream into a plan. It employs simple and quick solutions, focused on supporting your personal effectiveness. A coach provides a fresh perspective on situations. They work with emotionally stable clients who seek individual development in the “here and now.”
A psychologist also accompanies you in your self-work. However, you can also talk to them about the past, family, changing patterns, accumulated emotions, and blocks. They work on your self-esteem and relationships with others. They help you accept yourself and develop your potential.
Individual coaching is 100% focused on you. It is tailored specifically to your needs. It establishes a powerful and fast thread of trust, making the process highly effective in a short period of time.
Group coaching is also an effective form of work, usually aimed at discovering the potentials and motivations of group members. The process is less focused on one individual. By listening to others, participants often find solutions to their dilemmas and learn from each other. People are social creatures, and participating in group sessions can strengthen them and serve as a source of motivation.
Relax – the conversation will take place in a friendly and non-judgmental atmosphere. The goal is to help you regain joy and balance in your mutual communication. No one intends to judge your parenting abilities – on the contrary, we assume that you have been doing your best to raise your child thus far. The coach or psychologist will simply aim to support you, answer your questions (within the scope not covered by therapeutic confidentiality), and address any concerns you may have.